What do you want in a man?
Sometimes these dudes on dating apps ask some pretty decent questions. And this one in particular made me go hmmmm....What do I want in a man? I've been asked what I am looking for before, which is bro code for, FWB which I just learned means friends with benefits. Benefits...I have several friends and they all benefit from my friendship as I do their friendship. Somehow I don't see an FWB situation with a dude being beneficial for me. And based on his photo and age...yeah nothing to offer there. But I digress. So this guy wants to know what I want in a man, which leaves me wondering, what in the hell do I want?
Umm..Eades, don't you think you should know the answer to this one?
Yeah, probably. But I YOLO everything else in life, why should this be in any different? Haha, kidding. And who said I was even looking? ...Hinge doesn't count! That's like online shopping when your credit card is in the other room and your are super comfortable and not moving. Browsing and looking are two different things. But I digress. Okay, well I suppose I would like a man who is patient and kind, does not envy or boast, is not proud or self-seeking, keeps no records of wrongs...yes I realize I am quoting Corinthians here, but I think this is a pretty solid list guys! I'm going to be late and lose things so he's going to have to be patient and kind. And men are generally self-seeking so if I'm going to commit myself one of those humans again, he better put others first. And never again will I enter into a relationship where he keeps a list of something I did wrong to throw in my face. Newsflash guys, I am going to do something wrong a lot (shocking, I know). So yeah, I think Paul knew what he was talking about to the Corinthians when speaking of love. I want a man who rejoices in the truth, i.e. when I am right he is elated ;). Paul had some other good things in there too, like trust, hope, protection...When I think of the qualities I am looking for in a man, it seems like a pretty tall order (pun intended, God I hope he is tall...).
Alright Eades, this is a pretty solid list. How's the search going?
What search? I'm on Hinge and trying to build a career over here. It's not easy trying to find a lover and a friend. Ya get one or the other. And I already have several besties so....I'll let ya know when I find a guy who adores me and my antics (they are adorable dammit) and is kind and considerate. It's tough out there. And for the love of God, can he puhlease be tall.
