The Gift of Narcissism

Are you a perfectionist? Always aiming to be better than you were yesterday? Congrats, you have the gift of Narcissism! That’s right, even congratulating someone is simply a con you’ve created to elicit a particular feeling…

You know Katie, that’s a pretty controversial statement for many people. - A 5/1 client whooo happens to have a famous name. 

You know client, the word con is in controversial for a reason. If anything feels controversial, you’ve conned yourself OWLready! (Insert laughing together here!).

Hear me out for a minute if you’re feeling triggered. Perfectionism is just Narcissism disguised as altruism, I.e. a self-absorption that places you and your actions at the center of other people’s universe. As if somehow your words, if they had just been tweaked, would have moved people to do something different, and if you could just perfect your communication style and have more confidence, you would be a better leader.

Confidence, convincing others, wowing them with your confident presentation, is not what makes you a great leader, and yet it can help you climb the corporate ladder—but it is not the only way! As it turns out a lot of leadership books are written by narcissistic leaders, often coming from an elitist background, espousing their point of view from the C-suite office they’ve spent their entire career hanging out in…and as it trickles down throughout the organization, it create conflict and continuing conversations that are labeled as difficult, crucial, or worse, correcting! I keep hearing these western psychologists speak about the Narcissism Spectrum, just like they speak about the autism spectrum, etc.

The problem with viewing any ‘personality’ trait (for lack of better word) or ‘label’ on a spectrum, is that you’ve missed what a ‘personality’ trait or ‘autistic’ trait is—an expression of energy. 

This is how your DNA works—epigenetics—your inner attitude has an electromagnetic impact on every single cell in your body. As you sit here reading this right now, you have created an energetic field that surrounds you, measurable up to 3 feet around you, reflecting your inner state of being. You have an aura of light around you that shifts color as your mood shifts; you’re a walking mood ring (has Gen Z brought those back yet so they get this reference…Google make it happen, teach the Gen Zs about the mood rings and how they control their own energy…remind them that

YOU and YOU alone are responsible for how the world makes you feel! Well, sort of…the planets play an impact in the dramas of our world as well. I see it play out each week around the world—it’s wild y’all—but I digress. You’re here to BE in YOUR energy!

Back to Narcissism…the lowest expression of Narcissism is self-absorption—feeling like you control life, and others—through aligning yourself with the right tools, identity, label, whatever it is that gives you the feeling of being in charge of the way your life unfolds. Sound like a recipe you read in a leadership book or blog recently? I would argue, quite confidently, that this is why you can’t recreate ‘high-performing teams,’ you are trying to hard.  

The higher expression of Narcissism is being Naturally self-empowered, no trying involved. It is simply there inside you the moment you decide to stop arguing with life! Natural self-empowerment can only emerge through a rising sense of inner freedom and spaciousness. - Richard Rudd, The Gene Keys: Embracing Your Higher Purpose 

Self-empowerment demands self-awareness of your higher self—it is not an endless quest for self-knowledge—it is the emptying of knowledge that creates your inner freedom and spaciousness. 

The highest expression of Narcissism is simply Being—being without agenda or direction. Nothing has more power than being itself!

Picture anything in nature and you will recognize this power. In a world of ‘actors’ performing on a stage to impress other people, I invite you to play with your authenticity instead! As your power grows, so does your inner freedom and natural ability to be in harmony with others. 

YOU as a leader, spouse, parent, person living on a giant space rock spinning 192 mph around the sun held in place thanks to the gravity of our moon, protected from space rocks hitting earth thanks to Jupiter’s gravitational pull, YOU are far more powerful just being yourself than you are trying to read a book and learn how to lead like successful leaders that are not you.

You can’t become yourself if you don’t know how your cells in your body work! You ARE your body! Someone wrote in an article I read once, A habit is the body acting as the mind. Someone else once said, You are your habits. I’m offering that

your mindbody is electromagnetic energy—your heart-brain that keeps your human body beating to earth’s drum IS your best decision maker, habit curator, and mind-mapper here to connect your operating system (head-brain) to a journey it has planned for you—so stop worrying about creating new habits or hacking your mind and start breathing in a new attitude! 

Notice even in connection we still get conned. Connections can often conceal the con itself, hence correlation does not OWLways equal causation! And why the placebo effect occurs every, single, time! I suppose that’s what drives the Narcissist to seek connection as a way to get what they want, often through great storytelling. You know, that OWL important skill set you simply must have to be considered a great leader in the company…

The animal kingdom chooses their leader based on genes, the alpha gene specifically. The human kingdom chooses their leader based on who can manipulate words best, through storytelling and confidence specifically. 

Real leaders don’t require the right words, they simply become themselves, support others in becoming themselves, and watch OWl of it SOAR into real results you can measure. This is what the OWL experience is OWL about—helping leaders know themselves and others—supporting leaders with tools that allow them to Become themselves, so they can lead others to through their own journey of becoming themselves. Your higher self has so much wisdom to offer you throughout this journey. It’s time you started tapping into it! Playing with life, instead of life playing you.

You ready to become yourself? More importantly, are you ready to commit to being comfortable with yourself?

Book your introductory session for just $99 and see what it is OWL about! Better yet, book your human design and gene keys reading and see what YOU are OWL about! Either way, you are guaranteed to SPARK something new!