Online Dating is so 2010s
That's right. I've officially broken up with all the dating apps. Like a bad relationship that lasted a year too long, it was still worth it. Have you read my blog? I really got some great material. And I'm funnier than ever, so no regrets! And don't worry, I'm still dating. I'm just not intentionally dedicating time to cultivate a connection and schedule a date with a stranger on an app that probably isn't worth investing the next 4 hours of my life. I'm relying on stars to align here, which according to every Hallmark movie is exactly how this works. In this movie, I'm the girl with big dreams and a bigger heart, working passionately to help people, while simultaneously building a business and quitting her job. But unlike your traditional tv romance that's probably written by a man, the protagonist in this story (me) isn't giving up on dating, getting a cat and preparing to die alone. This girl is just upgrading to a referral only dating policy. So if you know a nice man that I should grab a drink with and spend time getting to know, send him my way people! Tuna is still dating, but only if 4:5 doctors recommend it. Or in this case, 1 friend with a photo and a backstory to peak my interest.
Eades, I love this plan! In fact, I have someone in mind...
Ha, of course you do. And the best part is, he's probably great. And thanks guys! Since shifting my energy away from dating, and asking for friend referrals, I've already accidentally had more dates in 2020 than I did for most of 2019. Hallmark really does know a thing or two about who modern romance works. And even better, I'm creating for me again. I'm writing, building a business, connecting with friends, launching that podcast I've been talking about for 3 years, helping people, and dating. This way, when I inevitably die alone, at least I'll have made an impact. And with the freedom to work from anywhere, I can spend my winters in Florida being an awesome Aunt to my three adorable nephews.
Eades, you are not going to die alone! You're great. We'll find someone for you!
Ha, thanks guys! You're the best. And you're right, I'm probably not going to die alone. So I'm giving it to God and the universe and trusting that they will make things happen. I'm not terribly patient with myself. But love is patient. So I'll wait. Impatiently. All while pretending to be patient. And I'll focus on what I can control; launching a new business. They say dress for the job you want, well I'm going to just create the job I want and hope it all fall into place.
I love it. So...what's the job you want?
Well, if I'm being 100% honest here, I want the life I created when I was married, but this time with a man that supports my passion and dreams, and wants to have sex with me for fun and for procreation purposes. Yes, that's right, my dream job is to be a wife and stay-at-home mom that also has a thriving business that helps people. But I don't have a husband. Or anyone who has expressed interested in dating me. So I'm focusing on what I can control, building a business. My ex-husband didn't want to "go through life being all willy-nilly" with me. One man's willy-nilly is hopefully another man's ideal girl that pursues her passions, builds successful businesses, all while simultaneously making sure her husband's laundry is done, house is cleaned, lawn is mowed (seriously, why was this my job too), grocery shopping, dog walking, cleaning dishes, taking out the trash (why was this also my job), hosting fundraisers, dressing up for his work events, charming all his work colleagues and clients, and of course being my adorable funny self. It sounds insanely busy, but it was great and I would do it again. Only this time, I'm outsourcing the household chores. And if it's written in the stars, also raising teeny humans with a male human that enjoys supporting me as much as I enjoy supporting him. Ya hear that universe? I want to have it all! ....even if he's not tall. Nobody's perfect. But if he could be tall, that would be great.
